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Why Kindrd is built the way it is — the trade-offs, the things we refuse to ship, and the ideas underneath the design. Free to read, always.

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Latest — 26 July 2026

We gated our best writing to grow. Google saw 144 words.

We put six guides behind a sign-up teaser to drive accounts. Logged out — which is what a search engine is — they rendered 144 words. Here's the arithmetic we should have done first.

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26 July 2026

The flag said PVI IDE

We shipped a generated photograph to 21 pages without reading what was in it.

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26 July 2026

We built 71 city pages. A quarter of each one was ours.

What happened when we finally measured our own programmatic SEO instead of admiring it.

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22 July 2026

A trans man is a man. Here's what that meant for the code.

Values you can't see in the code aren't values, they're decoration.

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22 July 2026

Swipe fatigue is real. Here's what dating without a deck looks like.

Burnout isn't you failing at the apps. It's the apps working as designed.

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22 July 2026

Monogamous, open, polyamorous: structure is a filter, not a surprise

One of the few real dealbreakers, and most apps make you discover it by accident.

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19 July 2026

Why we built a dating app that wants you to leave

The business model problem nobody in dating wants to say out loud.

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18 July 2026

Privacy isn't a setting. For us it's the architecture.

What changes when you design against a real adversary, not a policy.

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17 July 2026

On being seen

The difference between being allowed in and being built for.

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16 July 2026

The third reply

Where a conversation stops being a formality.

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15 July 2026

Slow is the point

Why a handful of people beats a thousand.

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