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Most dating friction isn't incompatibility — it's two people who never said what they wanted, finding out in month three. Three questions, and you'll have the sentences to say it in.
These are the same three things Kindrd matches on. Nothing is stored, nothing is sent, and there is no email box at the end — the output is the point, and it works on any app.
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Not what you think is reasonable to want. What you'd take if it were offered.
Why these three
Almost every early-dating collapse traces back to one of these three going unsaid. People are usually honest about who they are and vague about what they want, because wanting something specific feels like a demand. It isn't — it's the only thing that lets someone else opt in accurately.
Structure is the one people skip hardest. Monogamous, open, polyamorous, still working it out — all fine, all incompatible with some of the others, and all much cheaper to establish in a sentence than in a difficult conversation six weeks in.
More on this in what relationship-first dating means and questions about Kindrd.